A few years ago the term, “Cuffing Season” started to become popular. It refers to that determination people seem to get into when the fall season hits that they need to hurry up and get in a committed relationship.
There are many reasons why this could be. Maybe it’s the weather and wanting someone to enjoy the holiday season with. Who knows? Perhaps it has something to do with the season of harvesting and wanting all forms of plenty and abundance.
No matter what the reason for the Fall relationship itch, it’s important to be aware of it and to recognize whether you are acting on a subconscious fear of not having or if you are acting from a place of genuine interest in the person you’re connecting with.
And the more you are clear on what you want in a relationship, the more quickly you’ll be able to recognize whether you’re acting out of desperation to be “cuffed” or desire to be connected.
1 – Review Your List(s)
Somewhere along the way, you identified the dealbreakers in a relationship, and you might have even figured out the must-haves. Take some time to review these to have them top of mind. When you meet someone and start to feel yourself heading towards a relationship, you’ll be more easily able to identify whether this person is a good fit or not. Don’t know where to start? We’ve created a PDF download you can follow to do some brainstorming – get it here.
2 – Spend Quality Time With Yourself
It can be easy to mistake a desire for connection with yourself for a desire for outside connection. When is the last time you treated yourself to something you enjoy doing alone? Whether it’s takeout and Netflix or a warm bath or a stroll through a park? We can all get so caught up in the daily grind we forget to connect with the one person who’s always with us. When you are deeply connected to your own soul, you are naturally going to be in a better place to connect with someone new.
3 – Spend Time With Friends
Before you go in search of someone new to connect with, refresh the connections you have with friends and family members. Perhaps if you’re feeling lonely or feeling that you need a relationship, it’s because you do! But if you’re not ready for a romantic relationship or clear on what you want that could not be the best decision. Quality time with friends and family can bring a deep joy that satisfies you through the fall season and beyond. Maybe you can even host a “friendsgiving” dinner.
Share in the comments… have you found yourself feeling pressured to get in a relationship in the fall? Why do you think that is?