When I was a kid, I used to love the show Kojak. Maybe it was because Kojak aka Telly Savalas was bald at a time when it wasn’t fashionable, he always had a lollipop in his mouth, or his favorite phrase was, “Who loves you baby?”. I loved how his deep voice sounded saying those words. It was a running joke between my father and I because when said it to me, I would of course say, “You do daddy!!”. Over time, I have learned to turn that phrase inward, because who’s gonna love me better than I can?
Have you ever heard the phrase, “Wherever you go, there you are?”
It’s so true. No matter who you’re in a relationship with, what event you’re attending, or how far you travel, you are always there.
The question is, do you enjoy being with you?
Believe it or not, you have a relationship to your “self.” You can observe that in how you speak to yourself when something goes wrong, how you acknowledge yourself when something goes right, and even in what you think when you look in the mirror each morning.
Last week, I invited you to spend quality time with yourself to help grow that love for yourself.
This week, I want to encourage you to take that further.
Here are a few ideas you can take and adapt however you see fit to help deepen your love for yourself and create a more healthy relationship within that affects every other relationship you have.
1 – Write a Love Letter
It might sound silly. But have fun with it! You don’t have to show anybody else. Write yourself a letter about all of the things you appreciate and enjoy about yourself. Your laugh, your smile, your generosity – anything!
2 – Make a List
Set a timer for 10 minutes, and write as many things as you can think of that you love about yourself.
3 – Give Yourself a Massage
Gently massage your own arms, legs, and feet. Notice the texture of your skin. Take time to notice yourself as you would someone you were physically intimate with. Think about how grateful you are that your arms can carry a load, and your legs help you get where you want to go.
4 – Look in the Mirror
Don’t just LOOK in the mirror. Really look in the mirror. Notice all of the ways that you are beautifully made. Look in your own eyes. Notice what thoughts, feelings, or even resistance come up.
5 – Sing Yourself a Song
It could be a sappy love song, or it could be happy birthday. Your ability to sing is one of the ways you have been given to express yourself, and when nobody else is around to hear there is no excuse for being afraid or nervous.
Share in the comments… which of these will you try this week? Which one scares you the most and why?