In the Bible, in Mark 12:31 it says, “Love your neighbor as yourself.”
It would be easy to read that and interpret it as it is important to love your neighbor.
I don’t know about you, but sometimes it’s EASY for me to love the other people in my life. Sure, all relationships have ups and downs. But I find it pretty easy to forgive people when they’ve wronged me or disappointed me somehow.
Myself on the other hand?
There have been times I have berated myself for days over a mistake. In ways that I would never speak to a friend or relative.
So, I’ve come to believe there’s a hidden challenge in that verse. And a hidden result as well.
What if the challenge is to love yourself… the given being that you already love your neighbors. After all, during the hurricane you made sure he was taken care of. When her husband passed away, you helped with her meal train.
When you love yourself, that love attracts more love, and maybe even more happiness to you. When you give yourself kindness, you get more kindness coming your way.
In other words, every time you make that conscious choice to love yourself, you are setting yourself up to attract more of those good feelings, which may even lead you to attracting those good things you want in your life.
On the other hand, if you’re belittling yourself, you’re sending the message that you are unworthy of those desires, which only leads to a vicious cycle of feeling less loved.
So, next time you find yourself smacking your own forehead and asking what you were thinking, maybe try giving yourself a gentle, “it’s okay” instead.
Here are 3 ways you can give yourself a little compassion next time you’re in a bind:
1 – Notice what you did right
It’s easy to notice your mistakes, negativity bias is real, after all. If you find yourself in a mess, look for what you did in the situation that made it better.
2 – Stop it
When you start to hear yourself, either in your thoughts or out loud, berating or belittling yourself, stop. If you need something to replace that with, just imagine what you would say to a child in your shoes, and say that instead.
3 – Touch Your Heart
I mean this literally. Close your eyes and place your hand on your heart. Take a moment to focus on your breath and recognize that in some way, all is well.
Share in the comments… what would you like to have more of in your life and how can you give that feeling to yourself?