There’s an old saying that the only thing a person has in life is their name and their word. I believe in upholding both. But I can remember a time when both came into question.
I was friendly with a guy who I later found out had a crush on me. I had no interest in him because I was dating someone, and he was dating one of my sorority sisters. We were at a party hanging out with some other friends when someone snapped a picture of us. This was pre-internet and cell phones but somehow his girlfriend heard about us at the party and believed that I was after him. This was so far fetched, but over time the rumor persisted.
I’m a firm believer in integrity. My word is my bond, and I always do what’s right. I also believe karma is a mother, and I don’t want to be on her bad side. After a period of time, I was able to address the issue, and it turned out to be a misunderstanding because the guy wasn’t being in integrity with his girlfriend.
If you look integrity up in the dictionary, you might find the first definition is about principles and moral uprightness. Which explains why sometimes people take it personally when they are questioned about their integrity.
The definition I’m talking about today is the state of being whole and undivided.
In other words, walking your talk.
If you want powerful change, to manifest your goals and dreams, try doing what you say you’re going to do.
Yes, there are times when we think we aren’t ready. We procrastinate, we ponder, and we pontificate, all with no action. We do this because of fear.
The reality is you have everything you need.
Just last week, a group of people participated in the Relationship Ready Challenge. I am so impressed with everyone who participated and their willingness to face skeletons in their closets and look at how they can create the relationship they’ve always wanted.
Or at least, the relationship they say they’ve always wanted. Some of those people will quickly forget all of the work they just did to get ready. It’s sad but true.
What would it look like to have the integrity to follow through when it comes to your relationship goals?
For one, it might look like continuing to do “the work” (whatever that is for you) whether or not a potential partner is paying attention.
Two, maybe it’s staying present to your feelings, even the painful ones, instead of escaping to shopping, junk food, or your social media feed.
Three… it could be as simple as saying yes if someone asks you on a date.
The truth about integrity is that it is a thread running through every area of your life. Maybe you’ve heard the adage, “How you do one thing is how you do everything.”
Share in the comments… do you do what you say you’re going to do? Are you inspired to start walking your talk?