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Why Mate Selection Is One Of The Most Important Decisions You’ll Ever Make In Life

  11.17.2015   Venessa   Rhythm   No comments

Sheryl Sandberg was spot on when she said: “I truly believe that the single most important career decision…is whether we will have a life partner and who that mate is.” As part of the research for a book project, I conducted a survey to ask people what life lessons they’ve learned now that they have… Read More

Why Entering Into A Relationship With A Person That Has Nothing To Lose Is A Bad Idea

  11.16.2015   Venessa   Soul   No comments

People have always come to me for relationship advice; men, women, friends, family, clients and  strangers. Because of this there aren’t too many stories I haven’t heard. Recently, a young woman recounted a story where she found herself in a near physical altercation with her man. He had lied to her and she found herself… Read More

Why The Only Person You Need Closure With Is Yourself

  11.12.2015   Venessa   Soul   No comments

Anyone that’s ever been in a relationship knows about closure. Closure is when the relationship is ending or over and there’s that one final conversation where you get to pour out your heart. For women this is usually one of two conversations: the one when you tell him how you feel in hopes that he… Read More

Because Sometimes Love Doesn’t Make Sense

  11.11.2015   Venessa   Soul   No comments

The fairy tale wedding. The dramatic entrance into the church, the vows, lots of people, beautiful dresses, the perfect reception site with a scenic view for the photos, chevalier chairs, colorful table cloths,  good food, and lots of dancing. But after the wedding no one prepares us for the marriage. The pomp and circumstance is over… Read More

Why There’s No Reason To Talk About Failed Relationships

  11.10.2015   Venessa   Soul   No comments

Last week in the news David Justice, the former New York Yankees and Atlanta Braves baseball star took to twitter to rant about his ex-wife Halle Berry’s most recent split from her husband. In his expose’ he talked about the fact that he didn’t abuse Halle and only the men in a relationship with her… Read More

How To Gracefully Exit A Relationship

  11.5.2015   Venessa   Rhythm   No comments

Let’s face it at some point the relationship had to come to an end.  For some reason you just couldn’t work through your issues. Perhaps it was a betrayal of trust in which he or she didn’t do what they promised they would do or better yet they did what they said they would never do… Read More

4 Things That Are Keeping You Single And Why They Need To Change

  11.2.2015   Venessa   Soul   No comments

When we’re young we have this fairytale idea of what marriage is supposed to be. It’s a couture gown, a big wedding, a large ring that’s a certain percentage of his 6-figure salary, a mansion with a gate and vacations in the Vineyard. No one tells us about the hard work that goes into selecting… Read More

Be Happy!

  10.28.2015   Venessa   Soul   No comments

  How can I love somebody else, If I can’t love myself enough to know When it’s time, Time to let go Sing All I really want is to be happy And to find a love that’s mine It would be so sweet I ask for the sign From the sweet Lord above I know… Read More

The Road Less Traveled

  10.26.2015   Venessa   Soul   No comments

What would you do if you knew you wouldn’t fail?   I have no idea who said this first. But I know that since the first time I heard it, it stuck with me. I’ve dreamt about it, talked about it, tweeted it and now I’ve printed it in big letters so I can read… Read More

Why Love Jones: The Remix?

  10.25.2015   Venessa   Soul   No comments

Nina Mosley: You always want what you want when you want it. Why is everything so urgent with you?   Darius Lovehall: Let me tell you somethin’. This here, right now, at this very moment, is all that matters to me. I love you. That’s urgent like a motherfucker.                                                                                                                   –Love Jones, 1997     Love Jones is one of my favorite movies,  along with Black Orpheus, Cooley High and Mahogany.  Do you recognize a… Read More