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Got a Wedding Invitation? Do this!

  07.26.2017   Venessa   Love   No comments

You know the feeling. The thick envelope. The luxe paper. The careful lettering and decorative stamp. Before you open the envelope… what is the first thing that goes through your mind? Is it excitement? Or is it dread? For many unmarried or uncoupled individuals, a wedding invitation can invoke anxiety and highlight unhappiness. For others,… Read More

First comes love, then comes… the ring?

  07.12.2017   Venessa   Love, Relationships   No comments

Have you ever heard a woman share the story of how she was proposed to, only to hear her express disappointment that the proposal wasn’t romantic or showy enough? Or what about the woman who sheepishly hides her ring away quickly after showing it off to you because it’s not as big as she would… Read More

3 Ways To Create Foolproof Expectations

  07.6.2017   Venessa   Love, Relationships   1 Comment

When we’re young we have whimsical ideas about what a marriage is supposed to be and what it’s not supposed to be. Your expectations might include a big expensive wedding, a financially stable partner, or a luxurious home. If you’ve been married, you’ve learned a few things, the biggest of which is that marriage isn’t… Read More

5 Ingredients to An Amazing Relationship

  06.27.2017   Venessa   Love   No comments

They say there are three sides to every story. What he says happened, what she says happened, and the truth. In the same way, there are three facets to every relationship. What you bring to the table, what your partner brings, and what you bring together. It’s really miraculous when you stop and think about… Read More

4 Questions to Ask Yourself Today

Do you remember when we lived in a world where computers and cell phones and social media didn’t exist? I certainly do. I might be one of the few people who wishes we could go back to those times. Back to when we actually had meaningful conversation. Remember when you had to be home to… Read More

Want to know the key to a successful relationship? Start with a friendship

  06.1.2017   Venessa   Relationships   No comments

Over the last month or two I’ve been working with a few people who are ready to be married. One in particular has recently met a woman that he really likes. By all accounts she sounds like a great young lady, and they have lots in common. I’ve encouraged him to go slow with this… Read More

The Surprising Difference Between Wooing and Pursuing

  05.24.2017   Venessa   Love, Relationships   No comments

Which do you prefer: wooing or pursuing? Many women I’ve spoken to throughout the years have said they would rather be pursued. I can understand why this might be your first response, but let’s examine what the implications are of being wooed versus being pursued. First, let’s take a look at the words themselves, the… Read More

Dating, hanging out…What’s the difference?

  05.17.2017   Venessa   Love, Relationships   1 Comment

A few weeks ago, I went out with a guy that I used to date because he wanted to get my professional opinion on his dating situation. A few weeks later, he mentioned that he hadn’t been out on a date since we went to brunch. Huh? This is where the problem began. I very… Read More

Dating Is Not The Goal

  05.10.2017   Venessa   Love, Relationships   No comments

On Sunday, millions of people will celebrate their mothers. Whether you find yourself among those or not, I invite you this week to think about your mom or the mother figure in your life this weekend. But not for the reasons you might think. You see, when it comes to dating and relationships, we have… Read More

That’s the way love goes (sometimes)

  05.3.2017   Venessa   Love   No comments

As a psychologist, it seems like whenever there is a celebrity divorce, people want to know my take on the relationship and why it failed. Spoiler alert: I usually haven’t got a clue! Most recently, some people in my community were asking about my take on Janet Jackson’s third divorce. I’ve got to disclaimer this… Read More