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The Surprising Truth About Integrity

  11.22.2017   Venessa   Soul   No comments

There’s an old saying that the only thing a person has in life is their name and their word. I believe in upholding both. But I can remember a time when both came into question. I was friendly with a guy who I later found out had a crush on me. I had no interest… Read More

5 Ways To Deepen Every Relationship You Have

  10.25.2017   Venessa   Love, Relationships   No comments

One night I had a conversation with a friend who told me he was afraid to put himself out there because he’d been hurt so many times in the past. Here was a man, a great guy with a lot to offer the right woman, who was feeling uncertain of himself. So I asked him…… Read More

3 Ways To Create Foolproof Expectations

  07.6.2017   Venessa   Love, Relationships   1 Comment

When we’re young we have whimsical ideas about what a marriage is supposed to be and what it’s not supposed to be. Your expectations might include a big expensive wedding, a financially stable partner, or a luxurious home. If you’ve been married, you’ve learned a few things, the biggest of which is that marriage isn’t… Read More

Want to know the key to a successful relationship? Start with a friendship

  06.1.2017   Venessa   Relationships   No comments

Over the last month or two I’ve been working with a few people who are ready to be married. One in particular has recently met a woman that he really likes. By all accounts she sounds like a great young lady, and they have lots in common. I’ve encouraged him to go slow with this… Read More

The Surprising Difference Between Wooing and Pursuing

  05.24.2017   Venessa   Love, Relationships   No comments

Which do you prefer: wooing or pursuing? Many women I’ve spoken to throughout the years have said they would rather be pursued. I can understand why this might be your first response, but let’s examine what the implications are of being wooed versus being pursued. First, let’s take a look at the words themselves, the… Read More

S/he’s Just That Into You

  04.26.2017   Venessa   Love, Relationships   No comments

For better or worse, we are living in a world where we pass judgment on potential life partners as quickly as swipes on a phone screen or clicks on a profile. Which, let’s face it, can all be pretty hit or miss. But let’s say you are fortunate enough to make it through the hurdles… Read More

Eight Lessons We Can Still Learn from Love Jones Twenty Years Later

“Let me tell you something, this here, right now at this very moment is all that matters to me. I love you and that’s urgent like a mother**ker.”- Darius Lovehall Love Jones is my favorite movie. Next to Cooley High, Mahogany, and a few choice others. This week marks the twentieth anniversary of its release,… Read More

Why You’re Still Single This Valentine’s

Let’s keep it real. You’re happy Valentine’s day is over. When you’re still single, Valentine’s Day can set you off on an emotional roller coaster. It’s a constant reminder that you’re alone with no one special to share it with. Maybe you had parents or a spouse who used to send you a Valentine. Or… Read More

How To Tell If Your Long-Term Relationship Partner Is Really Into You-Part 2

  05.31.2016   Venessa   Relationships, Rhythm   1 Comment

Some years ago I was in a long-term relationship with a man that loved Baby Face. In fact, we saw him in concert the day Michael Jackson died. This day is crystal clear because I was recovering from major surgery. I was unable to drive or get around on my own. My circle of sister… Read More

How To Tell If Your Relationship Partner Is Really Into You

  05.25.2016   Venessa   Rhythm, Soul   1 Comment

The other day I was laughing with a friend about her escapades on a recent trip. She connected with some friends and they had a great time. There was one particular thing she said that stood out in my mind. One of her friends got sick while they were there. Apparently, he ate something that didn’t agree… Read More